“There's a stigma in this world that men can't talk (to someone). Listen, if you're a man and you've got weight on your shoulders and think the only way you can solve it is by killing yourself, please speak to someone! Speak to anyone.”
For some males, there can be a conflict with masculinity and acknowledging they're not ok, and being comfortable or even able to talk about it. About how they're feeling. About what's going on with them. They may not even understand it all. And this leads to further reticence to talk about it. They feel shame and think talking is a sign of weakness.
What's ironic, is not talking about it, is actually weak. Having the courage to address it, is a demonstration of strength. It's brave and it's strong. It shows how capable you are. That you're a "real man" and will handle things.
The irony is many males regardless of age, think being a "real man" means they don't talk about it, and it ends up consuming them. For the only reason, that they didn't have the courage to deal with it. It's ironic how backward we can often have things.
Show the world how strong you are. Take ownership of how you feel. Talk to others about it. Deal with it.
Don't let it deal with you. By definition, that is the opposite of what a "real man" would do.
"You're not weak, you're stronger than anyone," he said. "If you can go and talk to your mate and say lad, this is affecting me, you're stronger than anyone, I don't care what anyone says. People think bottling stuff up makes it better, I've been there... I eventually spoke to someone, and as soon as you speak to someone it's like a weight's off your shoulders."